One of the questions that first pulled me towards performance psychology came from my own experience in sport: why can the same person feel so different in training and competition?
The ability has not disappeared.
When performance changes under pressure, our first instinct is often to assume something has gone wrong with confidence, mentality or preparation. But the athlete who walks onto court or pitch is still the athlete who trained the day before.
What can change is what they are able to access. Attention becomes narrower. Consequence becomes louder. A mistake can suddenly mean more. The person may begin monitoring movements that normally happen naturally, thinking about how they look, what the result will mean or what somebody else is thinking.
This is why I am interested in the space between having an ability and being able to trust it when it matters.
Pressure can make us leave the present moment.
My earlier writing on the inner game explored mindfulness, concentration, insight, effort and trust. I still return to those ideas, but I now think about them less as a list of techniques and more as questions about the person.
Where does your attention go when you feel threatened by the moment? What happens after an error? What are you trying to protect? What are you trying to prove? What becomes difficult to trust?
For one athlete, pressure may pull attention towards the score. For another, towards a coach in the stands. For another, towards the possibility of disappointing somebody. Two athletes can show the same behaviour and be experiencing something completely different underneath it.
The goal is not to think positively all the time.
I do not believe high performance means removing every uncomfortable thought or emotion. Trying to force the mind to be positive can sometimes create another battle: now you are under pressure and judging yourself for feeling pressure.
The work is often about becoming more aware of what is happening without immediately being controlled by it. That creates space. Space to notice. Space to choose. Space to return attention to what matters now.
Trust matters because performance cannot always be consciously controlled.
There are moments in sport when the body knows before the conscious mind has finished explaining. Timing, perception and decision-making can happen quickly. Over-control can interfere with something that has been trained thousands of times.
That does not mean “stop thinking” is useful advice. It means we need to understand what makes trust possible for that individual. Preparation matters. Safety matters. Self-understanding matters. The environment matters.
The inner game is personal.
This is why my work starts with understanding rather than prescribing. I want to know the person before I decide what they need. What does pressure mean to them? When do they feel most free? What changes in their body, attention and behaviour? What is happening around them?
Because the person makes the athlete, not the other way around.
When we understand the person beneath the performance, the conversation becomes much richer than “be confident” or “stay focused”. We can begin to understand what is actually getting between them and what they are capable of.
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Understand what is happening beneath performance.
Performance psychology is not about giving you a script for how to think. It is about understanding you, the environment around you and what changes when the moment matters.